THE ALLEVIATIONS OF
MONOGAMY.
This piece is not an argument for or against polygamy. It is a
clinical study of how the thing actually occurs among quite
ordinary people, innocent of all unconventional views concerning
it. The enormous majority of cases in real life are those of people
in that position. Those who deliberately and conscientiously
profess what are oddly called advanced views by those others who
believe them to be retrograde, are often, and indeed mostly, the
last people in the world to engage in unconventional adventures of
any kind, not only because they have neither time nor disposition
for them, but because the friction set up between the individual
and the community by the expression of unusual views of any sort is
quite enough hindrance to the heretic without being complicated by
personal scandals. Thus the theoretic libertine is usually a person
of blameless family life, whilst the practical libertine is
mercilessly severe on all other libertines, and excessively
conventional in professions of social principle.
What is more, these professions are not hypocritical: they are
for the most part quite sincere. The common libertine, like the
drunkard, succumbs to a temptation which he does not defend, and
against which he warns others with an earnestness proportionate to
the intensity of his own remorse. He (or she) may be a liar and a
humbug, pretending to be better than the detected libertines, and
clamoring for their condign punishment; but this is mere
self-defence. No reasonable person expects the burglar to confess
his pursuits, or to refrain from joining in the cry of Stop Thief
when the police get on the track of another burglar. If society
chooses to penalize candor, it has itself to thank if its attack is
countered by falsehood. The clamorous virtue of the libertine is
therefore no more hypocritical than the plea of Not Guilty which is
allowed to every criminal. But one result is that the theorists who
write most sincerely and favorably about polygamy know least about
it; and the practitioners who know most about it keep their
knowledge very jealously to themselves. Which is hardly fair to the
practice.
INACCESSIBILITY OF THE FACTS.
Also it is impossible to estimate its prevalence. A practice to
which nobody confesses may be both universal and unsuspected, just
as a virtue which everybody is expected, under heavy penalties, to
claim, may have no existence. It is often assumed- indeed it is the
official assumption of the Churches and the divorce courts that a
gentleman and a lady cannot be alone together innocently. And that
is manifest blazing nonsense, though many women have been stoned to
death in the east, and divorced in the west, on the strength of it.
On the other hand, the innocent and conventional people who regard
the gallant adventures as crimes of so horrible a nature that only
the most depraved and desperate characters engage in them or would
listen to advances in that direction without raising an alarm with
the noisiest indignation, are clearly examples of the fact that
most sections of society do not know how the other sections live.
Industry is the most effective check on gallantry. Women may, as
Napoleon said, be the occupation of the idle man just as men are
the preoccupation of the idle woman; but the mass of mankind is too
busy and too poor for the long and expensive sieges which the
professed libertine lays to virtue. Still, wherever there is
idleness or even a reasonable supply of elegant leisure there is a
good deal of coquetry and philandering. It is so much pleasanter to
dance on the edge of a precipice than to go over it that leisured
society is full of people who spend a great part of their lives in
flirtation, and conceal nothing but the humiliating secret that
they have never gone any further. For there is no pleasing people
in the matter of reputation in this department: every insult is a
flattery; every testimonial is a disparagement: Joseph is despised
and promoted, Potiphar's wife admired and condemned: in short, you
are never on solid ground until you get away from the subject
altogether. There is a continual and irreconcilable conflict
between the natural and conventional sides of the case, between
spontaneous human relations between independent men and women on
the one hand and the property relation between husband and wife on
the other, not to mention the confusion under the common name of
love of a generous natural attraction and interest with the
murderous jealousy that fastens on and clings to its mate
(especially a hated mate) as a tiger fastens on a carcase. And the
confusion is natural; for these extremes are extremes of the same
passion; and most cases lie somewhere on the scale between them,
and are so complicated by ordinary likes and dislikes, by
incidental wounds to vanity or gratifications of it, and by class
feeling, that A will be jealous of B and not of C, and will
tolerate infidelities on the part of D whilst being furiously angry
when they are committed by E.
THE CONVENTION OF JEALOUSY
That jealousy is independent of sex is shown by its intensity in
children, and by the fact that very jealous people are jealous of
everybody without regard to relationship or sex, and cannot bear to
hear the person they "love" speak favorably of anyone under any
circumstances (many women, for instance, are much more jealous of
their husbands' mothers and sisters than of unrelated women whom
they suspect him of fancying); but it is seldom possible to
disentangle the two passions in practice. Besides, jealousy is an
inculcated passion, forced by society on people in whom it would
not occur spontaneously. In Brieux's Bourgeois aux Champs, the
benevolent hero finds himself detested by the neighboring peasants
and farmers, not because he preserves game, and sets mantraps for
poachers, and defends his legal rights over his land to the
extremest point of unsocial savagery, but because, being an amiable
and public-spirited person, he refuses to do all this, and thereby
offends and disparages the sense of property in his neighbors. The
same thing is true of matrimonial jealousy; the man who does not at
least pretend to feel it and behave as badly as if he really felt
it is despised and insulted; and many a man has shot or stabbed a
friend or been shot or stabbed by him in a duel, or disgraced
himself and ruined his own wife in a divorce scandal, against his
conscience, against his instinct, and to the destruction of his
home, solely because Society conspired to drive him to keep its own
lower morality in countenance in this miserable and undignified
manner.
Morality is confused in such matters. In an elegant plutocracy,
a jealous husband is regarded as a boor. Among the tradesmen who
supply that plutocracy with its meals, a husband who is not
jealous, and refrains from assailing his rival with his fists, is
regarded as a ridiculous, contemptible and cowardly cuckold. And
the laboring class is divided into the respectable section which
takes the tradesman's view, and the disreputable section which
enjoys the license of the plutocracy without its money: creeping
below the law as its exemplars prance above it; cutting down all
expenses of respectability and even decency; and frankly accepting
squalor and disrepute as the price of anarchic self- indulgence.
The conflict between Malvolio and Sir Toby, between the marquis and
the bourgeois, the cavalier and the puritan, the ascetic and the
voluptuary, goes on continually, and goes on not only between class
and class and individual and individual, but in the selfsame breast
in a series of reactions and revulsions in which the irresistible
becomes the unbearable, and the unbearable the irresistible, until
none of us can say what our characters really are in this
respect.
THE MISSING DATA OF A SCIENTIFIC NATURAL HISTORY OF
MARRIAGE.
Of one thing I am persuaded: we shall never attain to a
reasonable healthy public opinion on sex questions until we offer,
as the data for that opinion, our actual conduct and our real
thoughts instead of a moral fiction which we agree to call virtuous
conduct, and which we then-and here comes in the mischief-pretend
is our conduct and our thoughts. If the result were that we all
believed one another to be better than we really are, there would
be something to be said for it; but the actual result appears to be
a monstrous exaggeration of the power and continuity of sexual
passion. The whole world shares the fate of Lucrezia Borgia, who,
though she seems on investigation to have been quite a suitable
wife for a modern British Bishop, has been invested by the popular
historical imagination with all the extravagances of a Messalina or
a Cenci. Writers of belles lettres who are rash enough to admit
that their whole life is not one constant preoccupation with adored
members of the opposite sex, and who even countenance La
Rochefoucauld's remark that very few people would ever imagine
themselves in love if they had never read anything about it, are
gravely declared to be abnormal or physically defective by critics
of crushing unadventurousness and domestication. French authors of
saintly temperament are forced to include in their retinue
countesses of ardent complexion with whom they are supposed to live
in sin. Sentimental controversies on the subject are endless; but
they are useless, because nobody tells the truth. Rousseau did it
by an extraordinary effort, aided by a superhuman faculty for human
natural history, but the result was curiously disconcerting
because, though the facts were so conventionally shocking that
people felt that they ought to matter a great deal, they actually
mattered very little. And even at that everybody pretends not to
believe him.
ARTIFICIAL RETRIBUTION.
The worst of that is that busybodies with perhaps rather more
than a normal taste for mischief are continually trying to make
negligible things matter as much in fact as they do in convention
by deliberately inflicting injuries-sometimes atrocious injuries-on
the parties concerned. Few people have any knowledge of the savage
punishments that are legally inflicted for aberrations and
absurdities to which no sanely instructed community would call any
attention. We create an artificial morality, and consequently an
artificial conscience, by manufacturing disastrous consequences for
events which, left to themselves, would do very little harm
(sometimes not any) and be forgotten in a few days.
But the artificial morality is not therefore to be condemned
offhand. In many cases it may save mischief instead of making it:
for example, though the hanging of a murderer is the duplication of
a murder, yet it may be less murderous than leaving the matter to
be settled by blood feud or vendetta. As long as human nature
insists on revenge, the official organization and satisfaction of
revenge by the State may be also its minimization. The mischief
begins when the official revenge persists after the passion it
satisfies has died out of the race. Stoning a woman to death in the
east because she has ventured to marry again after being deserted
by her husband may be more merciful than allowing her to be mobbed
to death; but the official stoning or burning of an adulteress in
the west would be an atrocity because few of us hate an adulteress
to the extent of desiring such a penalty, or of being prepared to
take the law into our own hands if it were withheld. Now what
applies to this extreme case applies also in due degree to the
other cases. Offences in which sex is concerned are often
needlessly magnified by penalties, ranging from various forms of
social ostracism to long sentences of penal servitude, which would
be seen to be monstrously disproportionate to the real feeling
against them if the removal of both the penalties and the taboo on
their discussion made it possible for us to ascertain their real
prevalence and estimation. Fortunately there is one outlet for the
truth. We are permitted to discuss in jest what we may not discuss
in earnest. A serious comedy about sex is taboo: a farcical comedy
is privileged.
THE FAVORITE SUBJECT OF FARCICAL COMEDY.
The little piece which follows this preface accordingly takes
the form of a farcical comedy, because it is a contribution to the
very extensive dramatic literature which takes as its special
department the gallantries of married people. The stage has been
preoccupied by such affairs for centuries, not only in the jesting
vein of Restoration Comedy and Palais Royal farce, but in the more
tragically turned adulteries of the Parisian school which dominated
the stage until Ibsen put them out of countenance and relegated
them to their proper place as articles of commerce. Their continued
vogue in that department maintains the tradition that adultery is
the dramatic subject par excellence, and indeed that a play that is
not about adultery is not a play at all. I was considered a
heresiarch of the most extravagant kind when I expressed my opinion
at the outset of my career as a playwright, that adultery is the
dullest of themes on the stage, and that from Francesca and Paolo
down to the latest guilty couple of the school of Dumas fils, the
romantic adulterers have all been intolerable bores.
THE PSEUDO SEX PLAY.
Later on, I had occasion to point out to the defenders of sex as
the proper theme of drama, that though they were right in ranking
sex as an intensely interesting subject, they were wrong in
assuming that sex is an indispensable motive in popular plays. The
plays of Moliere are, like the novels of the Victorian epoch or Don
Quixote, as nearly sexless as anything not absolutely inhuman can
be; and some of Shakespear's plays are sexually on a par with the
census: they contain women as well as men, and that is all. This
had to be admitted; but it was still assumed that the plays of the
XIX century Parisian school are, in contrast with the sexless
masterpieces, saturated with sex; and this I strenuously denied. A
play about the convention that a man should fight a duel or come to
fisticuffs with his wife's lover if she has one, or the convention
that he should strangle her like Othello, or turn her out of the
house and never see her or allow her to see her children again, or
the convention that she should never be spoken to again by any
decent person and should finally drown herself, or the convention
that persons involved in scenes of recrimination or confession by
these conventions should call each other certain abusive names and
describe their conduct as guilty and frail and so on: all these may
provide material for very effective plays; but such plays are not
dramatic studies of sex: one might as well say that Romeo and
Juliet is a dramatic study of pharmacy because the catastrophe is
brought about through an apothecary. Duels are not sex; divorce
cases are not sex; the Trade Unionism of married women is not sex.
Only the most insignificant fraction of the gallantries of married
people produce any of the conventional results; and plays occupied
wholly with the conventional results are therefore utterly
unsatisfying as sex plays, however interesting they may be as plays
of intrigue and plot puzzles.
The world is finding this out rapidly. The Sunday papers, which
in the days when they appealed almost exclusively to the lower
middle class were crammed with police intelligence, and more
especially with divorce and murder cases, now lay no stress on
them; and police papers which confined themselves entirely to such
matters, and were once eagerly read, have perished through the
essential dulness of their topics. And yet the interest in sex is
stronger than ever: in fact, the literature that has driven out the
journalism of the divorce courts is a literature occupied with sex
to an extent and with an intimacy and frankness that would have
seemed utterly impossible to Thackeray or Dickens if they had been
told that the change would complete itself within fifty years of
their own time.
ART AND MORALITY.
It is ridiculous to say, as inconsiderate amateurs of the arts
do, that art has nothing to do with morality. What is true is that
the artist's business is not that of the policeman; and that such
factitious consequences and put-up jobs as divorces and executions
and the detective operations that lead up to them are no essential
part of life, though, like poisons and buttered slides and red-hot
pokers, they provide material for plenty of thrilling or amusing
stories suited to people who are incapable of any interest in
psychology. But the fine artists must keep the policeman out of his
studies of sex and studies of crime. It is by clinging nervously to
the policeman that most of the pseudo sex plays convince me that
the writers have either never had any serious personal experience
of their ostensible subject, or else have never conceived it
possible that the stage door present the phenomena of sex as they
appear in nature.
THE LIMITS OF STAGE PRESENTATION.
But the stage presents much more shocking phenomena than those
of sex. There is, of course, a sense in which you cannot present
sex on the stage, just as you cannot present murder. Macbeth must
no more really kill Duncan than he must himself be really slain by
Macduff. But the feelings of a murderer can be expressed in a
certain artistic convention; and a carefully prearranged sword
exercise can be gone through with sufficient pretence of
earnestness to be accepted by the willing imaginations of the
younger spectators as a desperate combat.
The tragedy of love has been presented on the stage in the same
way. In Tristan and Isolde, the curtain does not, as in Romeo and
Juliet, rise with the lark: the whole night of love is played
before the spectators. The lovers do not discuss marriage in an
elegantly sentimental way: they utter the visions and feelings that
come to lovers at the supreme moments of their love, totally
forgetting that there are such things in the world as husbands and
lawyers and duelling codes and theories of sin and notions of
propriety and all the other irrelevancies which provide hackneyed
and bloodless material for our so-called plays of passion.
PRUDERIES OF THE FRENCH STAGE.
To all stage presentations there are limits. If Macduff were to
stab Macbeth, the spectacle would be intolerable; and even the
pretence which we allow on our stage is ridiculously destructive to
the illusion of the scene. Yet pugilists and gladiators will
actually fight and kill in public without sham, even as a spectacle
for money. But no sober couple of lovers of any delicacy could
endure to be watched. We in England, accustomed to consider the
French stage much more licentious than the British, are always
surprised and puzzled when we learn, as we may do any day if we
come within reach of such information, that French actors are often
scandalized by what they consider the indecency of the English
stage, and that French actresses who desire a greater license in
appealing to the sexual instincts than the French stage allows
them, learn and establish themselves on the English stage. The
German and Russian stages are in the same relation to the French
and perhaps more or less all the Latin stages. The reason is that,
partly from a want of respect for the theatre, partly from a sort
of respect for art in general which moves them to accord moral
privileges to artists, partly from the very objectionable tradition
that the realm of art is Alsatia and the contemplation of works of
art a holiday from the burden of virtue, partly because French
prudery does not attach itself to the same points of behavior as
British prudery, and has a different code of the mentionable and
the unmentionable, and for many other reasons the French tolerate
plays which are never performed in England until they have been
spoiled by a process of bowdlerization; yet French taste is more
fastidious than ours as to the exhibition and treatment on the
stage of the physical incidents of sex. On the French stage a kiss
is as obvious a convention as the thrust under the arm by which
Macduff runs Macbeth through. It is even a purposely unconvincing
convention: the actors rather insisting that it shall be impossible
for any spectator to mistake a stage kiss for a real one. In
England, on the contrary, realism is carried to the point at which
nobody except the two performers can perceive that the caress is
not genuine. And here the English stage is certainly in the right;
for whatever question there arises as to what incidents are proper
for representation on the stage or not, my experience as a playgoer
leaves me in no doubt that once it is decided to represent an
incident, it will be offensive, no matter whether it be a prayer or
a kiss, unless it is presented with a convincing appearance of
sincerity.
OUR DISILLUSIVE SCENERY.
For example, the main objection to the use of illusive scenery
(in most modern plays scenery is not illusive; everything visible
is as real as in your drawing room at home) is that it is
unconvincing; whilst the imaginary scenery with which the audience
provides a platform or tribune like the Elizabethan stage or the
Greek stage used by Sophocles, is quite convincing. In fact, the
more scenery you have the less illusion you produce. The wise
playwright, when he cannot get absolute reality of presentation,
goes to the other extreme, and aims at atmosphere and suggestion of
mood rather than at direct simulative illusion. The theatre, as I
first knew it, was a place of wings and flats which destroyed both
atmosphere and illusion. This was tolerated, and even intensely
enjoyed, but not in the least because nothing better was possible;
for all the devices employed in the productions of Mr. Granville
Barker or Max Reinhardt or the Moscow Art Theatre were equally
available for Colley Cibber and Garrick, except the intensity of
our artificial light. When Garrick played Richard II in slashed
trunk hose and plumes, it was not because he believed that the
Plantagenets dressed like that, or because the costumes could not
have made him a XV century dress as easily as a nondescript
combination of the state robes of George III with such scraps of
older fashions as seemed to playgoers for some reason to be
romantic. The charm of the theatre in those days was its
makebelieve. It has that charm still, not only for the amateurs,
who are happiest when they are most unnatural and impossible and
absurd, but for audiences as well. I have seen performances of my
own plays which were to me far wilder burlesques than Sheridan's
Critic or Buckingham's Rehearsal; yet they have produced sincere
laughter and tears such as the most finished metropolitan
productions have failed to elicit. Fielding was entirely right when
he represented Partridge as enjoying intensely the performance of
the king in Hamlet because anybody could see that the king was an
actor, and resenting Garrick's Hamlet because it might have been a
real man. Yet we have only to look at the portraits of Garrick to
see that his performances would nowadays seem almost as
extravagantly stagey as his costumes. In our day Calve's intensely
real Carmen never pleased the mob as much as the obvious fancy ball
masquerading of suburban young ladies in the same character.
HOLDING THE MIRROR UP TO NATURE.
Theatrical art begins as the holding up to Nature of a
distorting mirror. In this phase it pleases people who are childish
enough to believe that they can see what they look like and what
they are when they look at a true mirror. Naturally they think that
a true mirror can teach them nothing. Only by giving them back some
monstrous image can the mirror amuse them or terrify them. It is
not until they grow up to the point at which they learn that they
know very little about themselves, and that they do not see
themselves in a true mirror as other people see them, that they
become consumed with curiosity as to what they really are like, and
begin to demand that the stage shall be a mirror of such accuracy
and intensity of illumination that they shall be able to get
glimpses of their real selves in it, and also learn a little how
they appear to other people.
For audiences of this highly developed class, sex can no longer
be ignored or conventionalized or distorted by the playwright who
makes the mirror. The old sentimental extravagances and the old
grossnesses are of no further use to him. Don Giovanni and Zerlina
are not gross: Tristan and Isolde are not extravagant or
sentimental. They say and do nothing that you cannot bear to hear
and see; and yet they give you, the one pair briefly and slightly,
and the other fully and deeply, what passes in the minds of lovers.
The love depicted may be that of a philosophic adventurer tempting
an ignorant country girl, or of a tragically serious poet entangled
with a woman of noble capacity in a passion which has become for
them the reality of the whole universe. No matter: the thing is
dramatized and dramatized directly, not talked about as something
that happened before the curtain rose, or that will happen after it
falls.
FARCICAL COMEDY SHIRKING ITS SUBJECT.
Now if all this can be done in the key of tragedy and
philosophic comedy, it can, I have always contended, be done in the
key of farcical comedy; and Overruled is a trifling experiment in
that manner. Conventional farcical comedies are always finally
tedious because the heart of them, the inevitable conjugal
infidelity, is always evaded. Even its consequences are evaded. Mr.
Granville Barker has pointed out rightly that if the third acts of
our farcical comedies dared to describe the consequences that would
follow from the first and second in real life, they would end as
squalid tragedies; and in my opinion they would be greatly improved
thereby even as entertainments; for I have never seen a three-act
farcical comedy without being bored and tired by the third act, and
observing that the rest of the audience were in the same condition,
though they were not vigilantly introspective enough to find that
out, and were apt to blame one another, especially the husbands and
wives, for their crossness. But it is happily by no means true that
conjugal infidelities always produce tragic consequences, or that
they need produce even the unhappiness which they often do produce.
Besides, the more momentous the consequences, the more interesting
become the impulses and imaginations and reasonings, if any, of the
people who disregard them. If I had an opportunity of conversing
with the ghost of an executed murderer, I have no doubt he would
begin to tell me eagerly about his trial, with the names of the
distinguished ladies and gentlemen who honored him with their
presence on that occasion, and then about his execution. All of
which would bore me exceedingly. I should say, "My dear sir: such
manufactured ceremonies do not interest me in the least. I know how
a man is tried, and how he is hanged. I should have had you killed
in a much less disgusting, hypocritical, and unfriendly manner if
the matter had been in my hands. What I want to know about is the
murder. How did you feel when you committed it? Why did you do it?
What did you say to yourself about it? If, like most murderers, you
had not been hanged, would you have committed other murders? Did
you really dislike the victim, or did you want his money, or did
you murder a person whom you did not dislike, and from whose death
you had nothing to gain, merely for the sake of murdering? If so,
can you describe the charm to me? Does it come upon you
periodically; or is it chronic? Has curiosity anything to do with
it?" I would ply him with all manner of questions to find out what
murder is really like; and I should not be satisfied until I had
realized that I, too, might commit a murder, or else that there is
some specific quality present in a murderer and lacking in me. And,
if so, what that quality is.
In just the same way, I want the unfaithful husband or the
unfaithful wife in a farcical comedy not to bother me with their
divorce cases or the stratagems they employ to avoid a divorce
case, but to tell me how and why married couples are unfaithful. I
don't want to hear the lies they tell one another to conceal what
they have done, but the truths they tell one another when they have
to face what they have done without concealment or excuse. No doubt
prudent and considerate people conceal such adventures, when they
can, from those who are most likely to be wounded by them; but it
is not to be presumed that, when found out, they necessarily
disgrace themselves by irritating lies and transparent
subterfuges.
My playlet, which I offer as a model to all future writers of
farcical comedy, may now, I hope, be read without shock. I may just
add that Mr. Sibthorpe Juno's view that morality demands, not that
we should behave morally (an impossibility to our sinful nature)
but that we shall not attempt to defend our immoralities, is a
standard view in England, and was advanced in all seriousness by an
earnest and distinguished British moralist shortly after the first
performance of Overruled. My objection to that aspect of the
doctrine of original sin is that no necessary and inevitable
operation of human nature can reasonably be regarded as sinful at
all, and that a morality which assumes the contrary is an absurd
morality, and can be kept in countenance only by hypocrisy. When
people were ashamed of sanitary problems, and refused to face them,
leaving them to solve themselves clandestinely in dirt and secrecy,
the solution arrived at was the Black Death. A similar policy as to
sex problems has solved itself by an even worse plague than the
Black Death; and the remedy for that is not Salvarsan, but sound
moral hygiene, the first foundation of which is the discontinuance
of our habit of telling not only the comparatively harmless lies
that we know we ought not to tell, but the ruinous lies that we
foolishly think we ought to tell.